"I didn't realize that tango was so steamy!" Sherry remarked a while back, after seeing me dance with P. I suppose it is. Part of the attraction of tango is the embrace, for sure. But even though dancing tango in close embrace and being perfectly in sync with someone can make me feel like I'm both flying and grounded in my partner, it's very rare that I will completely unleash sensual energy on my partner when we're dancing. This is due to one or more of the following:
- most people don't dance with that kind of intensity
- most people are worrying about feet or navigation and not connection
- I'm saving my energy for when TML has to perform (these days)
- my partner is a Sketchy Guy and/or just gives me the creeps
- my partner's girlfriend or boyfriend is watching jealously
- my partner is a former lover and I don't want to go there
So most of the time I just get out there and laugh a lot and have fun. And abide by my usual rule: dancing is not real life (which translates into: a dance interest is not a romantic interest unless I'm already interested for some other reason). But it would be fun to dance with full intensity sometime. I'll look for my chance.